On this bright sunny Fathers day my thoughts turn to men everywhere who put in the time and get it done. No matter what the cost, no matter how exhausted they are from the day to day business of taking care of family, running a business, working at their jobs, home repairs, playing hard or just trying to relax. Being a father is serious business, and it stretches your limits sometimes to the point of breaking. There’s a time in every man’s life when all of the stressors of daily life come together to form an enormous bubble where the activities of daily life seem to pile on with no end in sight. It’s this test of being able to handle everything at once that separates the men from the boys, if you will. Some men simply bail, call it quits and look for greener pastures, but as we all know the grass is truly greener in your own back yard. It’s funny how things always look better the less you look at them. Dig deeper into anything and you’ll always find fatal flaws. The trick, as I see it, is to see your own flaws as challenges for greatness. Exploit the mediocrity in your own life and do the best you can with what you have. Strive every day to set things right that appear to be wrong in your own life.
The business of fathering is a never ending pursuit for perfection for some. Even when the kids are grown and out of the house, the habits formed during the stress bubble years keep on shining. The impression left on a man’s heart from these years of battling the stress bubble is resilient like a hand print in concrete. The impact left by tiny hands and impressionable minds works in both directions too. It bears fruit eternally from father to son, boss to employee, husband to wife, mother to son, uncle to nephew & grandfather to grandson. The combinations and permutations are only defined and limited by the number of fatherly encounters each man has in his lifetime. Being a great father is much more than shaping and molding your kids. Sometimes it takes the form of mentoring other fathers, giving and receiving support and praise to those men around you is paramount to the task at hand. I’ve always said I can learn from anyone, even if it means what not to do. If you can take away something positive from each person you meet, the task of being a truly great father piles up like raindrops filling a barrel, eventually overflowing and spilling onto others.
So on this Father’s day, relax a little if you must, recharge and ready youself for battle, be a positive influence to everyone around you, shine like God was looking over your shoulder (because he really is) unconditionally love your kids, you wife, your parents, your siblings and most of all call your Dad and thank him for the good, the bad and everything in between.
“Do or do not, there is no try”